3.1 Often Giving Opinions When
Gathering with Family but
Considered as Passing Wind
Based on the results of interviews with eight
informants, two informants (FZ and IN) answered
that they rarely expressed their opinions during
family gatherings.
"My family rarely listens to my opinion," said FZ.
IN also experienced the same thing.
Two informants (APN and NF) answered that
they often expressed their opinions,
"Actually, I myself rarely express my opinion. I'm
already lazy. So, I just listen," said APN. NF
apparently also had the same experience.
Two informants (ST and FD) answered that they
only sometimes expressed their opinions during
family gatherings. One informant (F) answered that
they often gave suggestions but were ignored. One
informant (SZ) answered that they never gave their
opinions during family gatherings. From the results
that have been obtained, it is not often that a last child
expresses his or her opinion during family gatherings.
This could be due to a lack of trust in the child or not
being given trust by his or her family.
Family formation is very important. If the child is
good, his or her parents will also be very good, and
this will play a big role in helping the child achieve
his or her dreams and realize his or her potential. In
addition, because we are a nation of successors, it is
important for children to learn self-confidence so that
they become adults who can achieve their maximum
potential and adapt to their environment. To be able
to achieve or do this, parents need to instil a sense of
self-confidence in their children from an early age, so
that children can easily do what they want to achieve
and can also face all the challenges in their lives with
full confidence. Self-confidence is one of the key
components of a child's social and emotional growth
as adults (Fabiani & Krisnani, 2020)
According to Rohma (2018) self-confidence in
children can be done or built from an early age. The
most important thing that must be present when
building a child's self-confidence is the role of
parents. So, parents have an important role in building
a child's self-confidence and character. Because
parents are the most important people in learning
about attitudes, behavior, and language in a child. A
child at the age of play has begun to build a sense of
shame, guilt, and self-confidence. According to
Mirhan & Kurnia (Sulfemi, 2020), self-confidence is
a person's ability to overcome various challenges and
situations, in order to avoid various forms of negative
impacts from certain situations. In addition, to make
it easier to achieve success without depending on
anyone. According to Lie (Kurniasih, Supena, &
Nurani, 2021) when a child is confident, he can
complete tasks according to his developmental stage,
has the courage to improve his own achievements,
and grows into a healthy and independent adult.
Shows how a child's confidence in himself can grow.
Based on extreme research conducted by Ayu
Antini, it states that the show and tell method makes
children's self-confidence grow, because it involves
children's involvement in direct learning activities by
asking them to tell stories about things they bring
from home, such as personal items, favorite foods,
and pictures or photos. The use of tangible objects
makes it easier for children to tell stories and make
their friends interested, arouses their curiosity, and
becomes a shining moment so that it increases the
child's self-confidence (Kurniasih, Supena, & Nurani,
2021). Therefore, the family is one of the sources of
self-confidence in a child that grows, by motivating
and supporting the child, so that he is not afraid to
face all the challenges he is facing. The family is also
the foundation for a child to form a positive opinion
about himself, thus helping him become a good
person. Families who build positive relationships
with anything and anyone, implement positive norms,
develop positive skills, and foster or provide positive
opinions can help a child's self-confidence increase.
3.2 Daughter Is Often Asked to Give
Their Opinion, but It Is Not Used
From the interview results, four (SZ, ST, FD, and F)
of the eight informants answered that they were quite
often asked for their opinions by their families, but
these opinions were rarely heard and sometimes
rejected by the opinions of older people in the family,
such as parents or older siblings. From the results of
the study, it shows how the interaction between the
youngest daughter or vice versa, with the perceptions
of each party. In addition, it also shows the challenges
faced by the youngest daughter, namely social and
psychological challenges. Then, with the results of
this study, the role of the family is very important,
namely providing support and recognition for the
development and formation of a child's character. By
implementing the role of parents like this, a child can
become a confident person and be able to express
their opinions.
The effective communication process is being
heard and willing to listen. In communication, it
should not be possible for someone to only want to be
heard by others but must be able to listen to the voices
of others, so that good communication can be created